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A Simple Daily Habit That Can Help Children Thrive | Japanese Listening Practice

Name: A Simple Daily Habit That Can Help Children Thrive | Japanese Listening Practice
Uploaded: 2026-10-17T12:45:46.323Z
Duration: 15 min 45 s
Description: An advanced Japanese listening lesson about small, consistent ways adults can support children’s growth and independence.

An advanced Japanese listening lesson about small, consistent ways adults can support children’s growth and independence.

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1日経った10
Just ten seconds a day is all it takes.
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秒やるだけで高学歴になる世界一端で効果抜群の育時法内緒で教えちゃいます。学式さのです。今回は高森み子さんの
I'll secretly share the world's easiest and most effective parenting method for raising highly educated children. I'm Gakushiki Sano. This time, we'll look at Miko Takamori's...
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著書ただみただ見守る
book, Just Watch Over Them...
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科学的
scientific...
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子育て素晴らしい方を紹介していきたいと思います。こですね毎日子育てが大変で悩んでる人はもう絶対読んだ方がいい。
I'd like to introduce this excellent scientific approach to parenting. Anyone struggling with the daily challenges of raising children should absolutely read it.
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親のやることが減るのに子供が勝手に育っ
Even though parents have less to do, their children grow on their own...
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ていくという本当に有能すぎる
It's an incredibly useful idea...
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ことが書かれていたんでもうねチート級の
That's what it teaches, so it's practically a cheat code...
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内容になっています。私もね今5歳と9歳
That's how extraordinary its content is. I also currently have a five-year-old and a nine-year-old...
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の子供を育てている自称育面なんでこれ
children, and I call myself an involved dad, so...
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読んで本当に良かったと思います。もう
I'm truly glad I read this book.
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自称育面って1番怪しいですよね。さて
Calling yourself an involved dad sounds the most suspicious, doesn't it? Anyway...
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早速質問なんですがあなたはお子さんが
Let me start with a question: when your child...
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勉強しない時なんて声かけてますかね。
isn't studying, what do you say to them?
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宿題やったのとかいい加減ゲームやめ
Things like, “Have you done your homework?” or “Stop playing games already!”
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なさい。何回言わせるの?この言葉もう
“How many times do I have to tell you?” These are words that...
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1億回くくらい言ってると思うんです。私
I feel like I've said about a hundred million times. I...
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もね、子供がロブロoとマイクラばっか
My children also do nothing but play Roblox and Minecraft...
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やってるんで、ゲームはもうお休みだよっ
so I keep saying, “It's time to give the games a rest.”
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て何回も言っちゃってます。ですが、この
I've said that to them many times. But this...
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声かけ実は逆効果だとこの本に明記され
way of speaking to them actually has the opposite effect, according to the book.
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てるんですよ。ガビーンというのもですね
It's written right there. What a shock! You see...
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、親が先回りしてやりなさいと言い続ける
when parents anticipate everything and keep telling children what to do...
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と子供は言われるまで待つことを覚え
the children learn to wait until they're told...
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ちゃうんです。別かれと思ってかけた
before doing anything. The words you spoke with the best of intentions...
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あなたの言葉が自分で動く力の方を奪って
were actually robbing them of the ability to act independently...
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いたとか本当ショックすぎないですか?
Isn't it truly shocking to learn that?
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しかもですね、これ何年も続けていると
What's more, if this continues for years...
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言われないと動かない頃になって
they reach a point where they won't act unless told...
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四春機に入る頃にはその一言すら届かなく
and by the time they enter adolescence, even those words no longer reach them.
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なるんです。こっちは毎日同じ
That's what happens. The parent gets tired of saying the same...
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ことを言って疲れる。向こうは不機嫌。家
thing every day, while the child is in a bad mood. And at home...
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の中の空気だけが悪くなっていくんですよ
the atmosphere just keeps getting worse.
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。で、すごいのがこの本の著者3人の息子
What's remarkable is that the author of this book has three sons...
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さんがいるんですが一つ橋、慶王、東京
who were accepted by Hitotsubashi, Keio, and Tokyo...
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芸代にそれぞれ合格してるんです。しかも
University of the Arts, respectively. And what's more...
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全員効率の小中校で塾に通い始めたのは
All three attended public elementary, middle, and high schools, and they only began attending cram school...
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なんと高参の夏からそれで受かるってぐ
in the summer of their final year of high school. Isn't it amazing that they still got accepted?
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すぎますよね。そしてさらにすごいのが
That's incredible, isn't it? And what's even more remarkable is...
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子供たちに勉強しなさいって1度も言った
she apparently never once told her children to study.
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ことがないそうなんです。え、本当に?
Not even once. Really?
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じゃ何やったのって思いますよね。実は
Then you wonder what she did instead, right? Actually...
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やったことが本当単純でただ見守るこれ
what she did was very simple: she merely watched over them. That's...
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だけなんですよ。しかも1日たった10秒
all. And she does one thing for just ten seconds a day.
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あることをするんです。え、それってただ
You might think, “Wait, isn't that simply...?”
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の放置じゃんって思うじゃないですか。で
neglecting them?”
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もね、それがまた違うんですよ。親が
But that's not what it means. Rather than parents...
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やることを増やすんじゃなくて
adding more things for themselves to do...
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減らす、減らした分だけ子供が自分で決め
The more you step back, the more your child becomes able to make their own decisions
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られるようになっていくんです。その
for themselves. And that
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仕組みも詳しく説明していきます。という
mechanism will also be explained in detail. So
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ことで、今日この動画で簡単に学べるのは
here are the things you can easily learn from today's video:
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この3つ。1、たった10秒で子供が勝手
these three things. First, three moments that get your child to act on their own
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に動き出す3つのタイミング。2、頑張る
in just ten seconds. Second, why the harder
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親ほど子供が動かなくなる理由。3、子供
parents try, the less their children act. Third, the magic words that make children
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が自分からゲームをやめる魔法の声かけ。
stop playing video games on their own.
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今日ここで10秒覚えて実践すればあとは
If you spend ten seconds learning and practicing this today, after that
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勝手に子供が座っていきますからね
your child will sit down to work all on their own.
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。それでは今日も楽しく学んで
Now then, let's enjoy learning today as well
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いきましょう。1つ目、ただ見守るという
together. First: simply watching over your child.
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話。このただ見守るとは具体的に
What does this idea of “simply watching over them” specifically
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どういうことなのか?これはですね、手は
mean? It means you don't step in physically,
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出さないでも心は向ける。この状態のこと
but you remain emotionally attentive. This is the state
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を指しているんです。もう少し噛み砕いて
I'm referring to. To put it a little more simply,
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説明すると放っておくのは手も心も離れて
ignoring a child means withdrawing both your actions and your attention
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いる状態。逆に宿題やってるか何度も確認
. Conversely, repeatedly checking whether they've done their homework
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したり何回も部屋を覗くのは手も心も出し
or peeking into their room over and over means getting too involved, both physically and emotionally
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すぎ。その真ん中が見守るという鼓動なん
. Watching over them is the middle ground between those two.
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です。で、なんでこれで子供が伸びるのか
So why does this help children grow?
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気になりますよね。これですね、手の出し
You're probably wondering. The thing is, both excessive interference
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と放置どっちも子供からエネルギーを奪う
and neglect drain a child's energy
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行為なんです。まず出しすぎの方ですが、
. First, let's look at excessive interference.
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親の空気がずっとピリピリしていると子供
when a parent is constantly tense, the child
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っての機嫌を損ねないことに頭を使い
starts using all their mental energy to avoid upsetting them
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始めるんですよ。怒られないように先回り
. They try to anticipate things so they won't be scolded
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するとか、親が喜びそうな答えを言う。
or give answers they think will please their parents.
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本来なら勉強とか好きなことに向かうはず
All the energy that should normally go toward studying or things they enjoy
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のエネルギーが全部そっちに吸い取られて
gets completely diverted toward managing their parent's mood
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しまうんです。じゃあ逆に一切関わらず
. So does that mean you should do the opposite and not get involved at all
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放っておけばいいのかと言うと、これも
, simply leaving them alone? That isn't
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違うんです。子供って家に自分の居場所が
right either. Children need to feel that they have a place where they belong at home
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あると思えて始めて外で動けるようになる
before they can begin to act confidently out in the world
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んです。ここの部分が空っぽだと自分って
. If that sense of belonging is missing, they get stuck wondering
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いてもいい存在なのかなってところで
whether they even deserve to be here
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止まってしまう。動く前に燃料が入ってい
and cannot move forward. It's like having no fuel in the tank before even starting
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ない状態なんですよね。だからこそ手は
. That's precisely why you shouldn't step in physically
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出さないでも心は向ける。ここが大事なん
, but should remain emotionally attentive. That's what matters
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です。じゃあ具体的にどうやって心を向け
. So how exactly should you show that emotional attention
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ばいいのか。これをやる場面は朝、おやつ
? You only need to do this at three times: in the morning, at snack time
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、寝る前の3つだけ。しかも10秒でOK
, and before bed. And just ten seconds is enough
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です。まず1つ目、朝ですが、ここでの手
. First, in the morning, “not stepping in”
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を出さないは子供を起こさないこと。
means not waking your child up.
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いやいや、起こさなかったら永遠に寝て
You may be thinking, “Come on, if I don't wake them, they'll sleep
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ますけどって思いますよね。でもこれ
forever.” But this is
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あえてなんですよ。遅刻しそうになって
intentional. They may realize they're about to be late and panic
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焦る。朝ご飯を食べる時間がなくなる。
. They may run out of time to eat breakfast.
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この体験こそが自分の行動に責任を持つ
This experience itself teaches them to take responsibility for their own actions.
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練習になっているんです。その上でここ
It serves as practice. With that said, this next part
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からが心を向ける方なんですが出かける時
is about giving them your full attention. When they are leaving,
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に子供の目を見て行ってらっしゃい。これ
look your child in the eyes and say, “Have a good day.” That’s
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を言う。たった10秒。いや5秒でもいい
all you need to say. Just ten seconds—or even five
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んです。その瞬間だけは下の子も洗い物も
seconds is fine. For that brief moment, set aside the younger child and the dishes—
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全部置いといて出ていく子供だけ
everything—and focus only on the child who is leaving.
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に心を向けるんですよ。そしてここで大事
Give that child your full attention. And here is the important
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なポイント。この時何か言ようとしないで
point: don’t try to say anything else at that moment.
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ください。ハカ値持ったかとか今日提出物
Please don’t. You may want to ask, “Do you have a handkerchief?” or say, “You have something due today,
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あるよねとか言いたくなる気持ちは分かる
right?” I understand that urge,
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んですがグっとこらいましょう。これを
but hold it in. If you do that,
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やると見守りからただの確認作業になっ
it stops being a moment of caring attention and turns into a routine check.
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ちゃうんで目を見るそれだけを
So focus on just one thing: looking them in the eyes.
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意識してみてください。ちなみにですね、
Try to keep that in mind. Incidentally,
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うちの娘と息子は娘は5時半とか6時、
as for my daughter and son, my daughter gets up around 5:30 or 6:00,
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息子は6時半とかに起きるんで自分で勝手
and my son around 6:30, so they now get up
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に起きてくるようになっています。読んで
on their own. Reading that,
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いってね、ちょっとね、ほっとしました。
I felt a little relieved.
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次に2つ目、おやつの時ですが、帰ってき
Next, the second occasion is snack time. After your child comes home,
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てから、もしくは週末に一緒におやつを
or during the weekend, have a snack together.
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食べてください。ヤングドーナツでも
It can be Young Donuts
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キャベツ太郎でもOK。そして大事なのは
or Kyabetsu Taro—anything is fine. What matters is
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その時間だけスマホを置くこと、そして
putting your phone away for that time, and
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宿題はとかテストどうだったとかもう一切
not asking anything at all like, “What about your homework?” or “How was the test?”
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聞かない。ジャッジもزندگیもなし。
Don’t ask. No judging and no probing.
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これによって子供は自分はここにいていい
Apparently, this recharges the child with the feeling, “It’s okay for me to be here.”
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んだって充電されるそうなんです。しかも
And what’s more,
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これやってる親の方も同時に充電されるん
the parent doing this gets recharged at the same time.
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ですよ。じゃあ何を話すのって感じですが
So you may be wondering what you should talk about.
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、超シンプル。これ美味しいね。ちょっと
It’s extremely simple: “This is tasty,” or “It’s a little
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甘すぎ。形面白い。これでいいんですよ。
too sweet,” or “What a funny shape.” That’s all you need.
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そして子供が話し始めたら、え、そうなん
Then, if your child starts talking, just respond, “Oh, really?”
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だ。本当て聞くだけ。アドバイス
or “Really?” and listen. You don’t need to give
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もいらないんです。そのうち学校のことと
any advice. Eventually, they may tell you about school
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か友達のこととか話してくれるかもしれ
or their friends.
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ません。でも前のメりで期待しないのが
But the key is not to lean in eagerly with expectations.
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コツ。聞き出そうとした瞬間に戻っちゃい
The moment you try to draw information out of them, you’re back where you started.
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ますから。最後3つ目が寝る前。ここでは
Finally, the third occasion is before bed. At this time,
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今日良かったこと3つをお互いに言い合い
tell each other three good things that happened today.
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ます。夕食うまかったとか、休み時間
Things like, “Dinner was good,” or “I played dodgeball
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ドっちボールしたとか、このレベルでOK
at recess.” That level of detail is perfectly fine.
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。むしろしょうもない方がいいそうです。
In fact, apparently the more trivial, the better.
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というのもこれ小さいことでも今日もいい
That’s because this helps them learn that even small things can make today
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日だったで1日を終える練習になってるん
a good day, and to end the day with that thought.
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ですよ。これを前晩やってると子供の中に
If you do this every night, within your child
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自分は今日も大丈夫っていう感覚が
the sense that “I was okay today too”
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住み上がっていくんです。で、ここ大事な
will steadily build up. And here is another important point—
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んですが親も一緒に3ついいことを言い
But parents should also say three good things together with their children.
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ましょう。子供に言わせて終わりだとそれ
Let's do that. If you merely have the child say them and leave it at that,
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ただの宿題になってしまいます。この紹介
it will become just another assignment. As for the three things I introduced,
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した3つどうですかね?もうやってること
what do you think of them? What you need to do is no different from what you already do:
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は全部同じで手は出さないでも心は向ける
don't intervene, but do give the child your attention.
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なんですよね。これだったらできるはず
That's the idea. This should be something you can do.
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ですから明日の朝行ってらっしゃいの10
So tomorrow morning, for just the ten seconds when you say goodbye,
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秒だけスマホを置いてあなたの子供の目を
put down your phone and look your child in the eyes.
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見てあげてください。それだけで子供の心
Please really look at them. That alone will protect the space in your child's heart,
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の空間はちゃんと守れますから。
just as it needs to be.
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2つ目させなきゃワールドという話。
The second topic is what I call the “Have-to-Make-Them World.”
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あなたはお子さんにそろそろ宿題やったら
Do you ever say to your child, “Isn't it about time you did your homework?”
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と言ったり明日の時間割りを揃えちゃうと
Or do you go ahead and pack everything for tomorrow's classes,
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いったついつい先回りやっちゃってません
doing things in advance for them without even realizing it?
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かね。これね、よかれと思ってやってるん
Perhaps you do. You do these things with the best of intentions,
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ですけど、実はこれやればやるほど子供が
but the more you do them, the less your child
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動かなくなるんですよ。というの
will act on their own. That's because
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も、親の頑張るエネルギーが上がれば
the more energy parents put into trying hard,
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上がるほど子供の死体性は下がっていくん
the more the child's autonomy declines.
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です。これですね、あなたが間違ってる
That's what happens. It doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong.
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わけじゃないんです。ただ目に見えない
There are simply invisible
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力学が働いてるだけ。どういうことかと
dynamics at work. What this means is that
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言うと、親が宿題を見てあげる。習い事を
parents help with homework, research extracurricular lessons,
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調べてあげる。あれここれ指示をして
and give all sorts of instructions
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あげる。この時その裏側に私はこんなに
for the child. Behind all this lies the feeling, “I'm doing so much for you,
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やってるんだからあなたもちゃんとやって
so you had better do your part properly,”
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よという無言の圧がどうしてもね、流れ
and that unspoken pressure inevitably gets conveyed.
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ちゃうんですよ。で、子供ってこの空気に
Children are extremely sensitive to that atmosphere,
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めちゃくちゃ敏感で言葉では何も言われて
and even if nothing has been said to them directly,
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ないのに、うわ、めんどくさ。勝手に決め
they think, “Ugh, what a pain. They're deciding everything for me,”
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られてるって感じを受け取ってやる気の
and that feeling makes them switch their motivation
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スイッチをパチンとオフにしちゃうんです
off with a snap.
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。これ大人も同じじゃないですか?上司に
Isn't it the same for adults? When your boss
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ちゃんとやったのって高圧的に言われた
pressures you by saying, “Did you do it properly?”
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瞬間やる気がすーっと引いてくじゃない
doesn't your motivation drain away the instant they say it?
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ですか。この状態をね、この本ではさせ
This book calls that state the
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なけワールドドって呼んでいるんですが、
“Have-to-Make-Them World.”
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一言で言うと不安がベースの世界
In a word, it is a world rooted in anxiety.
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です。将来のためにとか失敗しないために
It is driven by thoughts such as “for their future,” “so they won't fail,”
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負けないために子供がどう感じているか
or “so they won't lose,” and instead of how the child feels,
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より人にどう見られるか世間でどう評価さ
the standard becomes how others see them and how society will judge
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れるかが基準になっている状態。このザ
them. That is the state we're talking about. When in this
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ワールドにいるとですね、子供の口癖も
“Have-to-Make-Them World,” children apparently develop a predictable catchphrase,
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決まってるそうでそれが分かっただそう
which is “Okay, I get it.”
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です。本当はやりたくないけど言っても
They don't really want to do it, but they know that even if they speak up,
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無駄だから分かったって言っとくで
it won't change anything, so they just say, “Okay.” And then
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だんだん無口になっていく。これ
they gradually stop talking.
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中にはぐさってきた人いるんじゃないです
I imagine that hit some of you right where it hurts.
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かね。自分の子供分かったってよく言うな
I guess. People often say, “I understand my own child,”
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とか、じゃあどうすればいいのかという話
but then, what should we do?
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なんですが、反対側のやっちゃうワールド
The answer is to move over to the opposite side—the “Just Do It World.”
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、ここに引っ越すんですよ。こっちは楽し
You move over here. On this side, enjoyment
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さがベースで自分はどうしたいかで動く
is the foundation, and people act according to what they themselves want to do.
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世界でして、ここではやっちゃうワールド
That is how this world works. Here, I’ll introduce
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への生き方を2つ紹介していきます。まず
two ways to live in the “Just Do It World.” First:
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1つ目、失敗談を語る。親って完璧でいな
Number one: talk about your failures. Parents tend to think they have to be perfect,
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きゃって思っちゃうんですけど、これ逆
but that actually has the opposite
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効果。子供って親を20年間
effect. Children watch their parents closely for twenty years,
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ずっと近くで見てるので、完璧な親を見
so if all they ever see is a perfect parent,
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続けると自分はこうはなれないって思って
they start thinking, “I could never be like that,”
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挑戦しなくなっていくんです。だから
and gradually stop taking on challenges. So,
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どんどん失敗した話をしてあげてください
tell them plenty of stories about your failures.
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。例えばお母さんテストで14点取った
For example: “Mom once got 14 points on a test.
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ことあるよ。先生にもおばあちゃんにも
Both my teacher and your grandma
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めちゃくちゃ怒られたことがあるんだとか
got extremely angry with me.”
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最近のですね、私の失敗で言うとお菓子の
As for one of my own recent failures, there’s this candy
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ずれたっていうグミを作るのがあるんです
kit called “Zureta” that lets you make gummy candy.
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が子供と一緒に作っていて粉の順番を盛大
I was making it with my child, and I got the order of the powders completely
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に間違えて最高に美味しくないグミ作って
wrong, producing spectacularly awful gummy candy,
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失敗したんですよ。グミどころかもう粉薬
so it was a total failure. It wasn’t even gummy candy anymore; it was like powdered medicine
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溶かしたみたいになっちゃって5歳の息子
dissolved in water. To my five-year-old son,
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にパパ本気で間違えた。本当ごめんて全力
I said with complete sincerity, “Daddy really messed up. I’m so sorry,” and
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で謝りました。でもこの失敗団が何で聞く
apologized wholeheartedly. But why are stories of failure so effective?
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かって言うと失敗してもいいんだよって
It’s because, rather than merely saying, “It’s okay to fail,”
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言葉で言うより失敗してもなんとかな
showing them that even if you fail, things will work
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るって姿を見せた方が何十倍も伝わるそう
out conveys the message dozens of times more powerfully.
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なんです。是非ねあなたの幼少期
Apparently, that really is the case. So please tell them about things from your childhood,
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の振られた話とかいろんな話してみてあげ
such as the time someone rejected you, and all sorts of other stories.
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てください。次に2つ目行動の順番を
Next, number two: change the order in which things are done.
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変える。今おそらくなんですがこうやっ
Right now, I imagine many people probably do it
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てる人が多いと思うんです。宿題やったら
this way: “Once you’ve done your homework,
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ゲームしていいよ。片付けたら
you can play video games.” “Once you tidy up,
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おやつね。やるべきことが先で楽しいこと
you can have a snack.” Obligations come first and enjoyable things
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が後。これをですね、なんと逆にするん
come afterward. Well, believe it or not, you reverse that order.
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です。おやつを食べようって先に言う。そ
Say, “Let’s have a snack,” first. Then
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したら子供がここ片付けないと食べられ
the child will say on their own, “We can’t eat unless we tidy this area
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ないねて自分で言い出す。公園に行こうっ
up.” If you say, “Let’s go to the park,”
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て言えばじゃあ準備しなきゃってなる。
they’ll think, “Then I have to get ready.”
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友達と遊んでくるならじゃあ宿題いつ
If they’re going out to play with friends, they’ll start wondering, “Then when should I
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やろっかなって自分で考え始めるんです。
do my homework?”
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順番を変えただけ。でもやらされてる
All you did was change the order. But it completely shifts them from the mode of being forced
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モードからやりたくて動くモードに完全に
to do something into the mode of acting because they want
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変わってきてるんですよね。実際著者の家
to. In fact, in the author’s household,
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ではテストより家族旅行やお誕生日ランチ
family trips and birthday lunches are apparently scheduled before
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の予定が先に入るらしいんですよ。だから
tests. As a result,
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子供たちはそれに合わせて自分で勉強時間
the children arrange their own study time around those plans.
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を確保しているんです。面白い方法ですよ
That's how they secure it. It's an interesting approach, isn't it?
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ね。ですから今日お子さんに何か言う時
So, when you say something to your child today,
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楽しいことを先に言ってみてあげて
try mentioning the fun part first.
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ください。宿題やったらゲームし
Instead of saying, “You can play games after you do your homework,”
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ていいよじゃなくて今日ゲームやるなら
say, “If you're going to play games today,
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宿題いつやる?これだけで決めるのが子供
when will you do your homework?” Just that shifts the decision
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側に移っていきますから。3つ目、スマホ
to the child. Third: smartphones
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とゲームという話。今の時代って本当に
and games. In this day and age,
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デジタルとの付き合い方大事ですよね。
how we engage with digital technology really matters, doesn't it?
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スマホもゲームもYouTubeも
Smartphones, games, and YouTube—
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取り上げるわけにはいかないかと言って
we can't simply take them away, but
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放っておくのも怖い。しかもこれ
it's also frightening to leave children to their own devices. And now
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からAIまで来てますからね。一体どうし
we even have AI to contend with. What on earth
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たらいいの?て全人類が頭を抱えていると
should we do? I think all of humanity is wrestling with that question.
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思います。で、結論から言うとルールを親
So, to give you the conclusion first, the moment parents decide the rules,
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が決めた時点でもう化け子供に
they've already lost. What matters is letting the child
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決めさせることが大事なんです。というの
decide. The reason is
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もですね、私たちの心配って依存しないか
that our concerns are whether they might become addicted,
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、勉強しなくならないか、はまりすぎ
stop studying, or get too
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ちゃうんじゃないかだと思うんですけど、
absorbed in it, but
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実は本当の願ってそこじゃないんです。
that isn't actually our true wish.
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溜まっても自分で切り上げられる
We want them to become adults who can stop on their own,
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大人になってほしい。ここじゃないですか
even when they're engrossed in something. Isn't that the real goal?
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。でも親が時間を決めて守らせるって親が
But if parents set the time limit and make the child follow it, that only means the parents
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管理できてるだけで自分で切り上げる力は
are managing things; the child's ability to stop on their own remains
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0のままなんですよ。むしろ管理されてる
at zero. In fact, because they're being managed,
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分育っていない。ここが自分で
that ability isn't developing. This is the crucial point in whether they become someone who can
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切り上げられる人になるかどうかの別れ目
stop on their own or not.
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なんですよ。じゃあ一体どうするかって話
So, what exactly should we do?
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なんですけど、3つのポイントをお伝えし
I'll share three key points
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ます。まず1つ目、目安を知っておく。
with you. First, know the general guidelines.
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この本には小学生で平日30分から1時間
This book recommends 30 minutes to one hour on weekdays for elementary school students,
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、休日は2、3時間、中学生ならその
and two to three hours on days off; for middle school students,
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1.5倍。高校生以上は基本的に
1.5 times that amount. High school students and older should generally
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自己管理と書いてあります。ただこれ
manage it themselves. However,
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あくまで参考ですからね。親がこれを言っ
these are only guidelines. Be careful, because the moment a parent says this
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た瞬間に押し付けになりますから要注意。
to their child, it becomes an imposed rule.
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次に2つ目、子供に聞く。ただ
Second, ask the child. However,
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いきなりね、何時間がいいって聞いても
if you suddenly ask, “How many hours do you think is good?”
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警戒されて終わります。だからその前に
they'll just become wary, and that will be the end of the conversation. So before that,
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まず一緒にやってみてください。今何見
try doing it together first. Ask, “What are you watching
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てんの?今どう勝ってるとかでオ。私もね
right now?” or “How are you winning?” That's enough. I also
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、9歳の娘とスプラトゥーンやってるん
play Splatoon with my nine-year-old daughter,
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ですが、普通に負けますからね。もう胴体
and she beats me fair and square. My ability to track movement
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視力が追いつけなくておじいちゃんレベル
just can't keep up; it's at grandpa level.
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です。で、負けると娘がめちゃくちゃ喜ぶ
And when I lose, my daughter is absolutely delighted.
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んですよ。ちくしょって気持ちを1回置い
I set aside my feeling of “Darn it!” for a moment
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て子供に監視を向けるうまかったねって。
and turn my attention to my child, saying, “You were really good!”
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そうすることで話ができる関係になって
By doing that, you'll build a relationship where you can talk things through,
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いくんです。そしてその上でですよ。毎日
and then, once you've done that, ask: “Every day,
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どのくらいのゲーム時間がいいっ
how much gaming time do you think would be good?”
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て思う?て聞いてみるんです。これ驚くの
Try asking them what they think. What's surprising
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がですね、子供って自分にぴったりの時間
is that children actually know exactly how much time suits them.
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をちゃんと分かってるんですよ。親の顔色
They really do. If the number they give you isn't based on reading their parents' reaction,
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を伺わずに本人が出した数字ならそれを
try going with it.
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採用してみてください。さらに時間で
Also ask whether to set the limit by time
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区切るゲームの区切りで決める。守れ
or by a natural stopping point in the game. Ask, “What should we do if you can't stick to it?
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なかったらどうする?どうやって声かけ
What could I say to help you stop?”
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たらやめれそう?ここまで全部子供に聞い
Ask your child about all of these things.
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ちゃいましょう。手間はかかりますが、
It does take some effort, but
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ここで親が一方的に決めるとこの先ずっと
if the parent makes all the decisions unilaterally here, from this point on
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毎日揉めちゃうことになります。最後3つ
you'll end up arguing about it every day. Finally, the third point
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目、守れなかった時の声かけ。ま
is what to say when they don't follow the rule. Well,
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、ぶっちゃけ子供は守れないそうです。
to be honest, children apparently won't be able to stick to it.
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うちの子供もこれやりましたが守れており
I tried this with my own child too, and they haven't managed to stick to it.
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ません。ただこれは想定ないで、ここで
But that's to be expected. At this point, instead of
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いい加減やめなさいって行動を注意するん
criticizing the behavior by saying, “That's enough—stop it,”
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じゃなくて、子供の状態の方を見てあげる
pay attention to how your child is doing instead.
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んです。最近なんか疲れてない?ちょっと
Say something like, “Haven't you seemed a bit tired lately?
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機嫌悪い時あるよねみたいな感じ。こう
You've been in a bad mood sometimes, haven't you?” By doing this,
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することで子供ってあ、寝るの遅いからか
the child may realize, “Oh, maybe it's because I go to bed late,”
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もとか自分で原因にたどり着くことが
and identify the cause on their own.
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できるんです。そして1番大事な
They can work it out for themselves. And the most important thing
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のができた時に言葉にすること。お、昨日
is to put it into words when they succeed: “Oh, you stopped earlier
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より早くやめられたね。自分で切り上げ
than yesterday. You managed to wrap it up
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られたじゃん。すごいな。この一言で子供
all by yourself. That's great!” Those few words can change
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の自分でできるって感覚が変わってきます
a child's sense that they are capable of doing it themselves,
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から、ここは絶対忘れないようにし
so be sure not to forget this.
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ましょう。ちなみにこちらの過去動画では
Please keep that in mind. Incidentally, in this previous video,
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子供にいくらお小遣いをあげたらいいのか
I explain how much allowance you should give your child.
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を解説しています。興味がある人はこの
If you're interested, after finishing this video,
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動画を見終わった後説明欄のリンクから
follow the link in the description
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覗いてみてください。今回の話早速実践し
and take a look. Today's topic was something you'll want to put into practice right away, wasn't it?
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たい内容でしたよね。この本には今回紹介
This book also contains, beyond what I introduced today,
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した以外にもデジタル機器は親の持ち物を
advice such as treating digital devices as belongings of the parents
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貸す形にすると喧嘩が激減する話や反抗機
that are lent to the child, which dramatically reduces arguments, and how even after children enter their rebellious phase,
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に入った後でも10秒で戻せる話
you can get things back on track in ten seconds.
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が書かれています。さらに興味がある人は
Those topics are covered in the book. If you'd like to know more,
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説明欄にリンクも貼ってありますので是非
there's also a link in the description, so please
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ねポチってみてください。うちの9歳の娘
click on it and check it out. I have a nine-year-old daughter,
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がいるんですが先週ですね
and last week,
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。大人っていいなって言ってきたんですよ
she said to me, “It must be nice being an adult.”
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。で、なんでそう思うのって聞いたら、
So I asked her why she thought that, and she said,
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だってパパ超楽しそうじゃんって言うん
“Because you look like you're having so much fun, Dad!”
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ですよ。もうこれがですね、本当に
That's what she told me. And honestly, that was
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美味しくて。というのも私もね、子供の頃
so gratifying to hear. You see, when I was a child too,
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電車で通勤してる大人たちを見てうわあ、
Seeing adults commuting by train, I’d think, “Whoa...
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大人って大変そうなりたくないなって本気
Being an adult looks so hard. I genuinely don’t want to become one,”
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で思って過ごしてたんです。ま、正直仕事
and that’s honestly how I felt growing up. Well, to be frank, work
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とか本当大変じゃないですか?私もね、
really is tough, isn’t it? For me too,
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サラリーマン時代とか収録、12時間労働
back when I was a salaried employee, twelve-hour recording shifts
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とか当たり前だったんで、それは分かるん
were completely normal, so I understand that
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ですよ。でも自分の子供にはそう思って
very well. But I didn’t want my own child to feel
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欲しくなくて、いつもね、楽しそうに仕事
that way, so I’ve always tried to look like I’m enjoying
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するように心がけていたら、今回娘がそう
my work, and this time my daughter actually
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言ってくれたんですよね。ああ、仕事楽し
said that to me. I’m always saying at home, “Ah, work is
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すぎるって家で言ってますからね、私。
so much fun!”
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正直ね、楽しくない仕事も当然あるんです
Honestly, of course there are also parts of the job that aren’t fun.
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よ。だから言われた時はもう心の中で
So when she said that, in my mind I immediately
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ガッツポーズしました。子供がね、大人に
threw my fist up in triumph. Isn’t it wonderful for a child
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なることをワクワクできるっていいじゃ
to feel excited about becoming an adult?
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ないですかね。あとですね、最近私は娘と
Also, lately my daughter and I
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2人で毎朝筋トレしています。私はね、
work out together every morning. For me,
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もうただダイエットなんですが、娘は腕を
it’s simply about losing weight, while my daughter apparently wants
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細くしたいそうで2人仲良くオロチさんの
to slim down her arms, so the two of us happily follow Orochi’s
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YouTubeを見ながらやっています。
YouTube videos as we exercise.
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その効果もあり、私身長180cmで前は
Thanks in part to that, although at 180 cm tall I used to weigh
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84kgくらいだったんですが、現在
about 84 kilograms, I’ve now
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75kmまで絞れて新橋のね、私がやっ
slimmed down to 75 kilograms, and at the place I run in Shinbashi,
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てるお店で視聴者の常連さんにまあさん
a regular who watches my channel said, “Maa-san,
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痩せてきましたよねって言われて喜んで
you’ve lost weight, haven’t you?” That made me very
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おります。是非ね、痩せたまを見たいと
happy. If you’d like to see the slimmer Maa,
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いう人はお店で一緒に飲みましょう。式
come have a drink with me at the bar. Shiki
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サロンはYouTuberさんのための
Salon runs an online community for
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オンラインサロンを運営しています。
YouTubers.
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おかげ様で運営3年以上、メンバー300
Thanks to your support, it has now been running for over three years and has more than 300
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名以上。その他にも登録者5万人以上の
members. It also includes more than 150 creators whose channels have at least 50,000
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運営者は150名以上参加しています。
subscribers.
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YouTubeは本当に難しくて難易度は
YouTube is genuinely difficult, and the level of difficulty
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どんどん上がっています。でも実は
keeps rising. But the truth is,
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YouTubeには明確なコツがあるん
there are clear, practical tricks to succeeding on YouTube.
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です。それに気づけないで運営し
If you run a channel without discovering them,
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ていたら1年経っても登録者1000人
you can realistically go a whole year without reaching 1,000
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達成できないことがリアルに起こって
subscribers.
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しまうんですよね。そこでこのサロンでは
That really does happen. That’s why, in this community,
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YouTubeのノンハウをみんなで学ぶ
to help everyone learn YouTube know-how together,
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ためにこういったコノツの得典を用意して
we’ve prepared these nine special benefits.
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います。私からの直接アドバイスも
Naturally, you can also receive advice directly from me,
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もちろんOKですし、今このサロンに参加
and exclusively for those who join this community now,
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した人限定で伸び悩んでいる
we’re offering something that can dramatically improve a channel
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チャンネルを劇的に改善する裏技7000
that’s struggling to grow: seven secret techniques.
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。これを無料でプレゼント中です
We’re currently giving this away for free.
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。実際2ヶ月で収益化達成できた人、3
Some members have actually achieved monetization in two months, others in three
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ヶ月で月20万円稼げた人、さらにその上
months have earned 200,000 yen per month—and there are even greater successes beyond that.
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の金額を稼いでいる人もたくさん生まれて
and many people have begun earning that amount of money
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います。本当にね、すごいメンバーが揃っ
There really are some amazing members
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てるんですよ。ただYouTubeは簡単
here. However, YouTube isn't easy
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ではありません。本気でやらないと成果は
at all. If you don't take it seriously, you won't get
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絶対出ませんので、これからね、本気で
any results, so if you're ready to seriously
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YouTube頑張りたい。副業で稼いで
work hard on YouTube and try earning money
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みたいという方のみお待ちております。
from a side job, we look forward to hearing from you.
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一緒にYouTube頑張ってみ
Would you like to work hard on YouTube together
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ませんか?さよなら。さよなら。さよなら
with us? Goodbye. Goodbye. Goodbye
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。
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